“Be strong for your parents.” I was 24, and my 21-year-old brother Will had just died. An awful electric current had pulsed through my body since I’d heard the news. I could barely eat—and it takes a lot to suppress my hearty appetite. My brain played the same short blip on repeat: your brother ... Read More about Instead of the “Forgotten Mourners,” What if We Called Grieving Brothers or Sisters This Instead?
I had an uncanny, haunting, tender, sweet moment with my son recently. It reminded me to be open to all the intangible possibilities. Head on over to Medium to read it, and let me know if you've had a moment like this. ... Read More about Do You Believe in Ghosts?
One of my favorite holiday traditions is writing my annual "Sometimes, the Holidays Suck" post for Elephant Journal. This year is different, with the pandemic. More of us are grieving, whether over lost loved ones, the loss of our old normal, and more. If you're struggling with the ... Read More about When the Holidays Suck
It still seems impossible, though it's been nearly five months now. He was here, and healthy, and then he wasn't. For years, I've written about grief from a cozy distance. Now, I'm in the middle of it again. I'd forgotten how raw and wrenching it is. Read more over at Elephant Journal. ... Read More about My Dad Died.
Somehow, it's been nearly 20 years since my brother Will died. I'm over at Elephant Journal with some thoughts on the questions grief had me asking-- both 20 years ago, and today. Read more here. ... Read More about Grief Milestones