To my child: The months after you were born were tough ones. You cried a lot and slept little. Your assessment of this bright, new world was decidedly unsatisfactory. In between fussing though, you offered just enough syrupy, middle-of-the-night smiles to melt away the challenges and make me ... Read More about Are You an HSP?
Do you ever experience nostalgia so intensely that it has skin? "You will miss your childhood at the strangest moments. Like when you’re 42, and you’re watching your son catch air in the bright February sun. I want to tell you this secret of adulthood, the one that still catches me by ... Read More about Do You Ever Miss This?
Answer the phone or the door, then wish you hadn’t. The news, even if you expected it, will stun you. You will feel as if you’ve left your own body behind too, and are hovering slightly above yourself, watching the scene unfold like some terrible TV movie. Gag. Vomit. Shout No to the person who ... Read More about How to Survive Losing a Brother or Sister
I loathed the first Christmas after my brother died. I felt like the strands of jewel-toned lights were taunting me, the ads flashing symbols of family and love and togetherness. The tumbling of decades of holiday memories rising in my mind: the time my brother and I secretly opened each other’s ... Read More about If You’re Struggling with the Holidays, You’re Not Alone.
Check out my new piece over at the elephant journal. I originally wrote this from the viewpoint of a grieving sibling, but decided to open it up so that more people could relate to it. But my sibling loss people-- this is especially for you. ... Read More about New post on grief and loss at elephant journal